What a BFF (Best Fertility Friend) Would Say – Ch. 24

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Mar 18, 2021

These blog posts titled “What a BFF (Best Fertility Friend) Would Say” are a collection of random tips to give you strength and assurance as you try to get pregnant.  I hope they help!

With appreciation for inviting me on your journey,


How to make your eggs younger?

You’re probably thinking about what food, supplement, medication, or herb I’m going to share with you that can help improve your eggs. 

Well, your body has a natural pharmacy of drugs that will either slow down or speed up their aging process. 

You want your eggs to be healthy, vibrant, strong, energized, right?.  That means you’re going to have to do the work so you feel that way on a whole body level. 

Because what happens on the macro level will translate to the microlevel of your eggs.  If you’re feeling tired, defeated, or depleted, then your eggs will be as well.  Because what you feel is the chemical environment that the eggs are surrounded by and what feeds them. 

Happy thoughts release happy chemicals like dopamine, serotonin, oxytocin, and endorphins. 

Self-criticism such as “my body and ovaries aren’t good enough or too old” and negative thoughts of anger, resentment, fear, jealousy, or depression, release the stress hormones, cortisol and adrenaline. 

So whatever you’re feeling regularly is going to determine the environment that your eggs are surrounded by and get signals from.  

My tip today is to start an appreciation journal. Every day, write a page of what you appreciate.  It can be silly little things like your favorite blanket, that cup of tea first thing in the morning.  They don’t have to be earth shattering. 

It’s the deliberate practice of directing your attention to all the wonderful blessings you have in your life that will release those happy chemicals so that your eggs are swimming in a pool of love, gratitude, and appreciation. By doing that, you attract  even more to you.

Feeling Overwhelmed? Do this!

A lot of women get overwhelmed by the amount of information out there on how to improve fertility. So I wanted to give some basic tips to make sure you’re on the right track.

Start with the things you already know that improve your health. If you improve your overall health, you will increase your chances of getting pregnant and staying pregnant…guaranteed.

The thing about fertility is that it’s all or nothing – you’re either pregnant or you’re not so it can be hard to gauge progress.

Instead you use your overall health as markers of your fertility health.

So do the things that you already know are good for you

  • hydrate
  • get enough sleep
  • move your body, preferably out in nature so you get out in the sun every day
  • eat whole, unprocessed nutrient-dense foods that don’t require an ingredients label. Those are typically foods around the perimeter of a grocery store. Everything else that is shelf-stable i.e. has preservatives, are in the inner aisles.
  • get off social media to reduce distractions and comparisons to others.

Do what’s easiest for you first to gain confidence in yourself and your body. That’ll be different for each person. For some, incorporating exercise will be a cinch. For others, that might be the last thing they tackle. There’s no right or wrong way to do it. Do what’s right for your body.

This way you can incorporate each item on your action list one by one, in a very manageable way without feeling overwhelmed or stressed.

Snoop Dogg says it all

Here’s something from Snoop Dogg to lighten your week.

Practice grace not only for others but most importantly for yourself. You’re far too hard on yourself.

Thank yourself for all the gifts you bring to the people you touch.

Thank yourself for persevering and believing in yourself even when others have told you it’s not possible or it seems like this journey will never end.

Thank yourself for doing the work to give yourself the best chance of success.

Most of all, thank you for just being you. You’re all that AND a bag of chips! Air fried, that is. 🙂