These common cost-cutting measures can hurt your chances when TTC

What a BFF (Best Fertility Friend) Would Say – Ch. 18

Jan 29, 2021

These blog posts titled “What a BFF (Best Fertility Friend) Would Say” are a collection of random tips to give you strength and assurance as you try to get pregnant.  I hope they help!

With appreciation for inviting me on your journey,


These common cost-cutting measures can hurt your chances

Who doesn’t love saving a little money?

However, sometimes there’s a tendency to focus on the wrong things – save a little here and there but lose sight of the bigger picture.

We’ve all been guilty of looking at the short-term cost reduction rather than the end-game.

Here are 4 ways you might be “penny wise but pound foolish” when trying to get pregnant…

  • Supplements – skipping them altogether or buying cheap brands which aren’t as well absorbed as high quality ones, resulting in expensive pee
  • Foods – favoring inexpensive, processed, convenient, non-organic foods that will satiate your hunger over more nutrient dense ones that build a strong foundation for a healthy baby
  • Not getting the right tests to establish your baseline, including the semen analysis – if you don’t have the necessary information, you don’t know what you’re dealing with
  • Not getting a second (or third) opinion can result in hasty decisions from fear of losing time

These cost cutting measures save you money now but they might end up costing you precious fertile time and more money in the long run.

Take a deep breath, evaluate your priorities, and budget accordingly.

Are you too much of a man in a woman’s body?

What are masculine and feminine qualities? Most people think about it in terms of gender – male or female. That is not the case.

Every person, whether man or woman, gay or straight, trans, cross dresser have both masculine and feminine traits – no exception. It’s just a matter of how much and when you have each aspect.

Masculine energy is dominant, strong, independent, assertive, logical.

Feminine energy is creative, receptive, intuitive, feeling based, flow, ease. It’s much softer in energy as compared to the masculine.

What I find in women is that they bring their masculine energy which is very appropriate for the workplace into their intimate relationships with their partner.

They have difficulty tapping into their feminine energy because they’re used to being in the masculine.

Unfortunately, this is counterproductive when you’re trying to get pregnant because what is your role in the creation process? To be the woman in body and energy.

The egg sits in the uterus waiting for a sperm to fertilize it. It’s just waiting patiently for the millions of sperm to compete with each other (competition is masculine energy) so the one alpha sperm gets the prize.

What does this mean for you? Get comfortable with not DOING so much because it’s more about BEING.

What does it mean to you to be a woman and a mother? Loving, patient, nurturing, kind, understanding,…

Do you embody those qualities now towards yourself and your partner?

If not, it’s time to start taking care of yourself. In doing so by shifting out of your masculine at home, you WILL improve your chances of success because you become more receptive and allowing for your baby to come.

Which protein powders are best?

Protein from whole, unprocessed foods is ideal but women generally have a difficult time eating the amount of protein they need so protein powders are a more convenient source as a supplement.

You should be eating at the very minimum half your weight in grams of protein a day. Ideally close to your weight. So if you’re 120 pounds, have at least 60g of protein a day, up to 120g. For most women they just can’t meet that amount with food alone.

And that’s where protein powders come in.

We’re not meant to get all our protein from vegetable sources. One reason is because our absorption of vegetable-based protein isn’t as efficient as animal protein so I’m not a fan of plant-based proteins.

If however, you insist on a plant-based protein, the worst of them all is soy protein and that’s what you want to avoid. 95% of all soy is genetically modified which means it has pesticide residue and, on top of that, it can disrupt hormonal regulation by raising estrogen levels.

My favorite protein powder is collagen protein powder aka “collagen peptides,” “hydrolyzed collagen,” “collagen hydrolysate” and “collagen powder.” They’re all the same thing so don’t get confused.

Collagen is the most abundant protein in the body, accounting for more than one-third of your total protein. It’s needed for healthy bones, teeth, muscles, skin, joints and connective tissues – all essential for a healthy baby.

That’s why I love collagen so much because it’s actually part of our bodies unlike whey, hemp, soy, pea, rice proteins. And as a wonderful side benefit, you’ll see your skin improve.